Public Displays of Affection Overwhelm MHS
February 5, 2010
Any Miramonte student who has been an unintentional “third wheel” during school hours should be thankful that February 14 falls on a Sunday this year. Nonetheless, as Valentine’s Day approaches, the already excessive public displays of affection or “PDAs” on campus will likely increase.
PDAs can be classified in two ways: the minor and the major. The minor, including hugging, hand-holding, arms-around-shoulders, and briefly kissing, are usually acceptable in a school context. However, major PDAs which we often refer to as “making-out,” “hooking-up,” or sometimes extreme “cuddling” should be reserved for being off campus or at least a private spot.
A number of guilty Miramonte couples should certainly be informed that their raging hormones and subsequent biological changes are not an excuse to flaunt their intimacy. Although there is no rule against students making-out or being overly touchy-feely, couples should simply have the decency to understand that some things are just not school-appropriate.
Above all, unwarranted major PDAs make most people feel exceptionally awkward. While peacefully disposing textbooks into your locker, the last thing you want in your peripheral vision is a couple sharing a loving moment three feet away. In this situation, you feel extremely uncomfortable and wonder why this couple feels desperately obligated to hook-up directly next to you in a locker hall.
The better question is why do some teenage couples find it absolutely necessary to engage in major PDAs in public settings? Most people wouldn’t want to publicize their intimacy to their fellow Matadors or worse, their teachers. In fact, the majority of couples don’t make the student community feel like third-wheels.
There is no reason for couples to be so blatantly affectionate at school, especially in such obvious places. If couples have a desperate urge to share a passionate moment during school hours, they should find a private nook instead of making fellow students feel substantially awkward in the cafeteria or outside of their third period classroom.
Many people would argue that if you are offended by PDAs you should just avert your eyes. In spite of this, it is sometimes impossible to shift your gaze away from a couple’s selected location. For example, in past years when casually walking from the science wing towards the senior lawn, the sight of a couple picnicking and making-out on the grass outside the teacher’s lounge was absolutely unavoidable. The general rule of thumb should be that anywhere crowded or obvious is off-limits, namely the cafeteria, hallways, outside classrooms, and near lockers.
A relationship is between two people, so there is no reason to include passersby. Some Miramonte couples need to restrain their affections so that their peers don’t have to worry about averting their gaze or finding a different route to class to avoid unintentionally encroaching on a moment of intimacy. Couples who engage in major PDAs at school should reconsider the uncomfortable consequences of their actions. With Valentine’s Day on a weekend, we can only hope that the Miramonte community will be spared of many awkward moments.