The 21st century communication phenomenon, Facebook, somehow emerged without a guidebook. That’s where we come in. Mirador has taken the time to compile the basics of Facebook etiquette. Let’s try to follow the rules:
Although we all love sitting at home by ourselves, laughing over sassy remarks that arise from controversial pictures, making these comments may put you in quite a pickle. Try not to get involved in an argument you wouldn’t feel comfortable being confronted about.
Don’t use a celebrity as your picture, and limit the number of times you change your profile picture. Profile pictures should be natural; we can all tell which pictures were posed to create the “perfect prof pic.”
Comment boxes are not an extension of the wall, so keep comments as comments, not unrelated conversations. Avoid deleting comments; if you’re going to delete them, don’t write them to begin with.
If you haven’t talked to the person face-to-face don’t stalk their photos (even though it’s oh-so fun).
Excessive “like”ing is unnecessary, and personalized comments are much more fun to receive. When it comes to links or acknowledging a request, liking is appropriate.
Don’t elude to something you will say privately in person later. This is what inbox messages are for.
Gossip over wall posts makes you look like a beezy! The inbox and chat may be a more appropriate place for catty remarks (if necessary). However, the most-centered Facebook users have embraced their peaceful nature and resist the temptation of slandering their peers.
Realize these will go on the Newsfeed and many Facebookers will watch these (let’s not embarrass ourselves too much…). It’s always a little creepy when you come across a video of someone serenading their friend while sitting alone in their room.
Blatantly incriminating photos become the equivalent of trashy celebrity magazines on Facebook. They are often embarrassing to whoever posts them, but they can get you in trouble. This often ignites a gossiping wildfire about scandalous weekends and adventures.
Messages vs. Walls
It’s this easy: Messages are private and exclusive, walls are public and viewed by anyone. Plan your messages accordingly.
Avoid statuses like these:
“@Il Forniao! <3 BREADSTICKS :P”
“In the dark, listening to Evanescense. Hit rock bottom.”
“LUV LIFE. With da gang. LOLZ :D”
“How could I have trusted you with my fragile heart?”
“Never partied harder in my life and its only 9 PM!!!!!”
If you’re sad, don’t post, you look pathetic. If you need consolation, call a friend, not the Facebook Newsfeed. Think about it, you really don’t want pity from faux friends or worse, your random relatives that creep your Facebook. Similarly, if you update your status five times a day, don’t pollute the Newsfeed. This is what Twitter’s for.
Friend requests from relatives are dicey. If you accept, be prepared for them to thoroughly creep and analyze your pictures, wall posts, and statuses. However, this can be easily prevented through privacy settings. But on the other hand, if you ignore their request, they are bound to question you about the grounds of their rejection.
We’ve all requested people we aren’t friends with, but realize there are boundaries. Receiving requests from people you’ve never seen before or only have one mutual friend with is just plain creepy. Realize that just because you’ve seen someone in the hallway and somehow know their name doesn’t mean they have ever seen you.